Here is my take on the “Maybe he doesn’t hit you” hashtag that has been going around. Although, I do understand that this is NOT always a HE pronoun…so I changed it to THEY.
We have all seen it…whether you have been on the receiving end, or whether you have a loved one who has told you about it…that relationship that just doesn’t quite seem right.
- It could be the “get your ass home” texts
- It could be the punch holes in your walls
- It could be the extent of your fights
- It could be how suspicious they get when all you do is go to the grocery store
- It could be how they tell you that you are nothing without them
- It could be how they apologize every time and say it’ll never happen again
- It could be how it was “a rough day”
- It could be how sometimes you forget you’re even in a relationship
- It could be how it always “was just a joke”
Often times, emotional abuse is even worse than physical abuse.
Bruises and bones heal,
But the mind is far more complex –
A bruise there can have impacts
that last a lifetime.
You are worth so much more than you let yourself believe. You are worth the world on a silver platter. You deserve the:
- “I cannot wait to see you!”
- “I am so thankful for you”
- “I appreciate you so much”
- “Have a great time!”
- The tightness of their hugs
- The intimacy of their touch – even if its just their hand on your shoulder – you feel their love and their warmth.
- “You complete me”
- Cute notes left all around the house
- Laughing fits so long your abs are on fire
- “You make my worst days into my best days”
- The cheesiest of relationships
You deserve the
Head Over Heels
I promise you that it is out there, and I promise you that it is possible.
You have to be willing to believe it. You have to be willing to realize that you are the only one that can make yourself happy. You have to be willing to walk away for your sanity and your well being. Because, maybe they don’t hit you, but they might constantly make you feel like you are doing something wrong.
It is much easier said than done – we like being comfortable, we like sticking to what we know, and we like having that person there (even if we know we aren’t even really all that happy). As silly as it sounds, it’s hard putting yourself first and taking care of you. I came across this Ted article the other day and fell in love. I instantly bookmarked it so I can go back and remind myself to take care of my emotional mental health.
There comes a time where you have to put self love first – your happiness, your sanity, YOUR life – that’s what matters. Stop coming up with excuses as to why the cons outweigh the pros, it is time for you to be happy.
We were all put here to be happy…so make it happen.
It’s your time.